Sex with ex?

How many times did you want to have sex with your ex?
How many times did you have an argument with your ex?
How many times did your ex make you cry?
How many times did your ex make you happy? 
How many times did your ex satisfy your needs? Not only sexually?
Why did your ex, become an ex?

Answer all those questions and think about the opportunity to have sex with your ex? One last time? Why?

 Is falling back into bed with someone you’re trying to get over a terrible idea, as pop music, country music, everyone reliable, and common sense would have us believe? Or could it actually be fine-even helpful? 

Two cases-let’s see. 

Case #1: 

This is when you you’ve already broken up, but sex was so good between you that you are happy to keep making love with your ex because it’s just fun, and you are both on the same page. 

Case #2: 

This is when you want your ex so badly, and you feel you have no other options (YOU ALWAYS HAVE OTHER OPTIONS JUST FYI), that you sleep together to make him or her want you back. 

If everything is clear between you two, and you are really on the same page, then there’s nothing wrong with being your ex’s sex-friend. 

Let me tell you, ex is ex for a reason! 

Don’t make the same mistake over and over. 

Doesn’t matter that you don’t want to sleep with just anybody or that you’ve already found someone that corresponds to your carnal needs, so you want to keep seeing him/her, and there are not emotional strings attached.

THERE ARE ALWAYS EMOTIONAL STRINGS ATTACHED.

Why did he/she become THE ex? What happened? 

I will be honest with you, if one of you had decided to break up, even if the sex is good and you enjoy giving into your desires, BE CAREFUL not to end up in this “sticky situation”, because it prevents you from healing. If you two don’t get back together, but you continue sleeping together, one of you will end up getting hurt because your expectations often become different. 

Since you broke up, you think that this is the only way you will be able to spend time together. Oh please? Really? What time together? Are you that desperate?
You don’t want to offend your ex, and you don’t want to miss and opportunity to spend time together, and so you think that sex is the only way to reach your goal?
 Why do you want him/her so bad?   

How many times did you want to end up everything, because he/she didn’t treat you right? How many times did you want to change everything in him/her only because he/she doesn’t meet your expectations? 

Why are you trying to change someone or something? To be with someone, means to like everything in him/her, okay, not everything but at least 65%. 

In any case, there’s always a certain confusion that arises. You spend your nights in one other’s arms, you kiss, you tell each other loving words? While you are being physical, you still have the same reflexes and this isn’t allowing you to forget about you relationship, to really MOVE ON, and to find yourself. This is the exact moment when problems start to arise.

You have to move on. Moving on is the hardest part, you think about all the nice and memorable moments together, kisses, touches, sex, traveling, dinners, breakfasts.
But also you have to think about  all the negative things.

Don’t make your mistakes over and over again only because of the pleasure.
Let me assure you, there are a lot of people out there who are able to satisfy your needs in a lot of ways. 

Don’t settle for less. You will always have an option. 

Answer all those questions above and make your mind. Do you want to be with him/her and what exactly do you want. 

I will never go back to someone who is already in the past. There is always reason for that! 

#high standards.

Sincerely yours, 
Vito Rio 
World Citizen.